Protocol & Rules in BDSM

Disclaimer: This is all my opinion and thoughts on the matter. I’m not an educator nor an expert in BDSM by any means. Read other sources and work out what works best for you, especially in regards to your dynamic.

As the Owner of My beloved S. I value rules and protocol highly. Does My beloved S love all My rules? Well, no. In fact, there are times when I am sure he wonders why I want something done a certain way. What he does like is the control that I am able to give him through these rules, protocols, and the punishments that come when they are not followed. It gives him a sense of peace and control.

What sort of things can limit how protocols and rules are done? Well, illness or a tragic event. If My beloved S is not well I will ask him if he is up to a scene or to the tasks. I have to trust him that he will not lie and he has to trust that I always have his best interests at heart. At the moment, his family situation means that he is unable to completely devote himself. In time, he will be able to.

A lot of the time the rules and protocols are tied to limits (hard and soft), expectations, and these are discussed prior to a scene taking place. In my experience, do not deal with a Dominant or a submissive who does not want to know these things. Personally, I like to have these things in writing before going into any scenes. I want to know health concerns (mental or physical), about their goals and kink philosophy is, whether they understand consent and safety words, and well, whether they are a fucking psycho or not.

Trying to work out protocols that fit with both of our schedules and comfort levels has been a challenge. Learning the difference in how the both of us think has been interesting. My beloved S loves protocol, control, and his submission. While I don’t relate to that sort of thing.

 

 

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