I’ve got to stop with these clickbait subjects. Seriously, break my fingers.
Part of being a switch (or even a Domme) is the people who try to sneaky weasel themselves in to try to dominate you. Usually these people are male although there is a female variety, too. Sometimes they’re experienced or they have discovered this side of their kink and haven’t quite learned that they are not entitled to everyone’s submission.
Do they not realise that not only is it cringey as fuck but causes them to look so insecure with their dominance that they need to try to spread it where it is a) not wanted, b) not needed, and finally, c) no, get the fuck out, Jeff.
** Note. I’m not targeting any Jeffs.
There was some general conversation before this. Nothing of note and most of this is paraphrasing, but anywho.
Douchey Dom: You know, I could dominate you in a scene. In fact we could have it right now.
Me: I only sub to My beloved S (or s).
Douchey Dom: Ah.. well, I see you still sub. I’m available whenever you’re free. I have some free time right now.
Me: I’m not interested and I made it clear that I wasn’t.
Douchey Dom: Oh I know, I’m offering and I hope you will reconsider. I have a fully stocked dungeon and I think you will make a delicious sub.
Me: ….. Are you serious? I politely declined twice. I’m not interested. I will never sub to you. Your hints are pathetic, and need to stop.
Douchey Dom: Why are you being so mean to me? I only asked. You don’t have to be such a bitch. You are fake! -insert four paragraphs of more angst and whining than an emo kid back in the day on their myspace-
^^ This gif looks so much like one of them. I had to post it.
Here are other reactions that are fitting. This also seems to be a feature in modern dating, too. Can’t people grow the fuck up for two minutes?
(Yes, I want to use some gifs. I can’t help myself.)
Why do people not respect boundaries or value friendships or simple discussions about BDSM? If someone can’t accept a polite declination, how the fuck are they going to handle a scene negotiation? Conversations on limits? Understanding of aftercare and support?
There are good people out there.
But fucks sake, you need to sift through the crap to find them sometimes.